Marriage – Necessary?

The word ‘marriage’ – might have acquired a very negative aura around it in certain parts of world now. Because there is some sense of juvenile freedom.

Marriage is a bad thing when you were an young person. But when you were a child it was a great thing.

When you were a little child, you were FOR the institution of marriage. When you’re 18, you’re against it. When you’re 45, you’re again FOR it. 😀

When you were a children, did you not wish that your father, mother and a stable situation existed around you? Was it not a natural longing?  So, when you’re 5, you’re FOR marriage, not your own, somebody’s Else’s 😀

Now, when you’re 18, you’re against it, because your physical body is in a certain mode, marriage looks like a bondage, a chain, you want to do things in a certain way. But slowly as the body weakens, once again you wish somebody that there is somebody with you in a committed way. This is very juvenile feeling that “when I am strong, I don’t need anybody and when I become weak I wish there was somebody with me.” I think partnership should be formed. When you’re at the peak of the well-being. Not when you have fallen.

When you have fallen, and you seek a partnership, you’ll make bad partnership, desperate partnerships. When you’re well and at your peak of you life, that is when you must make a partnership which will take you through all ups and downs. 

But, now the problem is, the partnership itself is taking you down; that’s a complaint. If the partnership is taking you down, that is because of the way your are! “No .. No , I am okay, its the other person” – That is what the problem is with you, which means you think you’re okay and somebody else is wrong!

Somewhere once in a way it so happened, completely misaligned people met and something happened, may be they need to break it. But for every women and fancy, breaking the relationship is not a good thing. Above all, you must understand as body – as mind has memory, physical body has its own memory.

You must see whether for you as a person, is it such a important thing or just a passing thing?

I would say for at least 25 to 30 percent of the people they need not even go in that direction, because its just a passing interest. For another 30 to 40 percent, it may be a little more long that they get into this – for 10 years, 12 years they will feel good after that they think its a burden. There is for some people where the need is very strong. Another 25 to 30 percent need it for much longer period; they definitely need to get into such arrangements or whatever. 🙂

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15 thoughts on “Marriage – Necessary?

  1. Marriage!! Big topic to write about! Although you’ve written beautifully. Loved the bold lines in between especially that when we were child….
    Nice one! Keep it up!

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  2. Marriage!!! Big topic to write about ha!!! Although you have written it so beautifully that I just kept it on read and read again mode 😉 Loved the bold lines in between especially the, when we were children…
    Awesome! Keep it up

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    1. Indeed it is a big topic! Thank you sooo much for stopping by my blog and liking and commenting 🙂 I am glad you enjoyed it! I’m lucky enough to have people like you reading the posts.. 🙂
      I have been reading some of your posts – ‘romancing with rain’ and I really love your writing.They are compelling and beautiful.I don’t know what ‘effective post’ means but if it touches one soul 🙂 I have not read much but yes looking forward to visit it again as few posts are in parts.

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      1. 🙂 🙂 It was in my good fortune that i got an attention towards your such a lovely blog! Thank you so much; I am glad that you found it compelling! Because of the compliments given by people like you, my blog works good! Thank you once again…

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  3. I love reading this. For I’m feeling ambivalent about marriages. I was brought up very strictly and all the thoughts that I had were mostly planted in my head by my parents. Now, that i’m slightly older and capable of reflecting on my own, i’ve got different opinions as to them. Nevertheless, I want to get married. But, I want both my partner and I to not only be financially stable but happy with ourselves. I completely agree with this line, I think partnership should be formed. When your’e at the peak of the well-being.” I’ve always believed in that. This is indeed one of the best blogposts I’ve ever read in a long time. 🙂

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    1. Thank you so much for your compliment 🙂 Appreciated. Well, I totally agree with what you say as we both belong to same ethnicity. Make your parents clear about expectations, Lot of coordination is required. Both parties(specially relatives) should be mentally prepared for the difference and accept it. 🙂 You’re a clever, I am sure you’ll work out!

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    1. Thank you so much vishal. 3years of my writing in tumblr was no waste 🙂
      I am sure you’ll end up master in writing. Keep this force 🙂 your blogs are really lovely .. Keep writing ❤ I will read each of your blogs and write my comments/reviews as I did earlier for "The Hindi- language loosing its importance"..

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  4. When I was younger, and about your age, I think deep down I wanted to get married but of course, after I completed various educational requirements . It so happened that I got married soon after I graduated at 23. Now at 46, I think I shouldn’t have married at all. After all what do we marry for ?
    1. For society ?
    2. For companionship ?
    3. For children ?
    4. More money ?
    For me, society, I don’t care about ( neither then nor now but I did it to make my parents happy, period)- other than that- for companionship- I like my own company better. For children- that is a good reason. More money, not at all.
    I think it depends on what phase of life we are in.
    Susie

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    1. Hey, Thank you so much for finding my blog and liking my post and commenting. 🙂 I totally agree with you.
      Well India is being a traditional country and parents here believe that there children’s marriage is their own responsibility. So they bother to complete their task at right time by finding perfect match. This is a kind of my personal opinion, Without loving a person , marrying them is like getting locked in your hostel dorm with an unknown room mate and realizing both of you are going to stay there for EVER .May be , good news will be that you people “fall” for each other after the monotonous life you get to spend and hence called FALLING IN LOVE AFTER GETTING MARRIED ! I fail to understand this concept .

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