The word ‘marriage’ – might have acquired a very negative aura around it in certain parts of world now. Because there is some sense of juvenile freedom.
Marriage is a bad thing when you were an young person. But when you were a child it was a great thing.
When you were a little child, you were FOR the institution of marriage. When you’re 18, you’re against it. When you’re 45, you’re again FOR it. 😀
When you were a children, did you not wish that your father, mother and a stable situation existed around you? Was it not a natural longing? So, when you’re 5, you’re FOR marriage, not your own, somebody’s Else’s 😀
Now, when you’re 18, you’re against it, because your physical body is in a certain mode, marriage looks like a bondage, a chain, you want to do things in a certain way. But slowly as the body weakens, once again you wish somebody that there is somebody with you in a committed way. This is very juvenile feeling that “when I am strong, I don’t need anybody and when I become weak I wish there was somebody with me.” I think partnership should be formed. When you’re at the peak of the well-being. Not when you have fallen.
When you have fallen, and you seek a partnership, you’ll make bad partnership, desperate partnerships. When you’re well and at your peak of you life, that is when you must make a partnership which will take you through all ups and downs.
But, now the problem is, the partnership itself is taking you down; that’s a complaint. If the partnership is taking you down, that is because of the way your are! “No .. No , I am okay, its the other person” – That is what the problem is with you, which means you think you’re okay and somebody else is wrong!
Somewhere once in a way it so happened, completely misaligned people met and something happened, may be they need to break it. But for every women and fancy, breaking the relationship is not a good thing. Above all, you must understand as body – as mind has memory, physical body has its own memory.
You must see whether for you as a person, is it such a important thing or just a passing thing?
I would say for at least 25 to 30 percent of the people they need not even go in that direction, because its just a passing interest. For another 30 to 40 percent, it may be a little more long that they get into this – for 10 years, 12 years they will feel good after that they think its a burden. There is for some people where the need is very strong. Another 25 to 30 percent need it for much longer period; they definitely need to get into such arrangements or whatever. 🙂